Sometimes it’s hard to identify your feelings. As things are rapidly changing, emotions may hit too fast to realize what they exactly are.
Since emotions have a central role in our psyche, they form our communication with the outer world.
It is always important to know how to build relationships with people, because it is something that identifies us in society. You can start with yourself and get interested in your emotional reactions, and then it will be easier to understand others.
⚡️Being emotionally intelligent requires not only recognition of your emotions, but also being empathetic and able to control your own feelings.
It seems that emotional intelligence doesn’t influence our IQ level, but how you can explain that people with equal education level and financial abilities longing for completely different aims?
Daniel Gloeman’s *“*Emotional Intelligence” was named one of the 25 “Most Influential Business Management Books” by Times magazine. This summary will help you to catch all the significant information that you may find in it.
You may have wondered why we sometimes act faster than we come up with a certain formed decision. Stressful situations like those, when something is threatening our life or causing danger for our close friend or family member, evokes an emotion immediately. In such case we may react automatically, which doesn't always mean reasonable.
For instance, the case of a woman, who was gifted a very exclusive art print. Her boyfriend has been looking for it for months to make her happy, but everything was ruined because of two sad news she found out a couple minutes later. So now when her mood was spoilt because of stress, she didn’t get that magic impression, and the art print ended up in a garbage can.
Our emotions have a mind of their own, one which can hold views quite independently of our rational mind.
Daniel Goleman turns our attention to a Latin root of the very word "emotion", which means "to move". It follows that our emotions are impulses, which are being instantly scanned by our brain. So, we need some extra time to realize what has happened and to identify our emotions.
But, of course, our emotions were not always the same as we have them today. There was a long way of evolution, where our ancestors had sense of smell instead of emotions. They built associations and recognized smells, so they could detect what is dangerous for them (for example, spoilt food) and survive.
Some emotional reactions may be formed unconsciously. A moment of emotional arousal imprints the most significant moments for our psyche, and that's how our actual emotions are formed. With the help of emotional memory and comparing previous experience to the relevant one, our brain is provoking the same emotions in a similar situation.
We may have the chaotic feelings, but not the words for the memories that formed them.
No matter how hard it may be to distinguish head emotions from heart, or thoughts from feelings, one can't go without another. This balance between emotional mind, which is inspiring us with actions, and rational mind, which is calming us down, just make sense.